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Theyyam etiquette: do’s and don’ts for visitors

By Geethu · Updated 18 Jan 2025

A Theyyam is worship before it is anything else. Visitors are welcome at many rituals, and a few small habits make you a good guest to the family and the village.

Before you arrive

Dress modestly with shoulders and knees covered, and carry something easy to slip on and off. Footwear is left outside the shrine ground, and some shrines ask men to remove shirts. Your guide will tell you the custom at each place.

While the ritual is on

• Keep your voice low and phones silent.
• Stay behind the boundary the family or committee has set, and never step into the ritual space unless invited.
• Do not touch the koladhari, the attire or the ritual objects.
• Do not walk between the koladhari and the shrine.
• Stand rather than sit if the people around you are standing.

Blessings and offerings

Devotees often approach the deity for a blessing and may make a small offering. You are not expected to, and no one will mind if you simply stand quietly. If you wish to take part, ask your guide how it is done at that shrine so that it is done properly.

Food, drink and rubbish

Many families offer food to those who attend. Accept it with thanks, eat it where others are eating and take nothing away without asking. Carry your own water and leave no litter.

Cameras

Photography and video are banned at some rituals, and rules differ from shrine to shrine. See why some Theyyams allow no photos or video.

Quick answers

Can anyone attend a Theyyam?

Many rituals welcome visitors, but they are family and village occasions. Go respectfully, ideally with someone the family knows.

What should I wear to a Theyyam?

Modest, comfortable clothes that cover shoulders and knees, and footwear that is easy to remove.

Should I give money to the koladhari?

You are not expected to. If you want to make an offering, ask your guide how it is done at that shrine.